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Monday, January 2, The Problems With the Victim Mentality A recent New York Times Magazine article tries to manipulate us into believing that a man who breaks into someone's home and assaults the residents is the actual victim.
A man, drunk out of his mind, breaks down the back door of a house - tearing the dead bolt out of the wall. He staggers in, grabs a frying pan, and tells the homeowner it is time for him to be "punished" and clocks him on the head with a frying pan.
Who's the victim here? The New York Times would have you believe it was the guy who was breaking-and-entering, the fellow who clocked the guy with the frying pan. After all, he has PTSD! The article is an exercise in intellectual dishonesty from the get-go.
From the way the article is laid out, to how it relates the story in fragments, to keep you reading it is designed to get you all weepy for the criminal and feel nothing but hatred for the victim - who unreasonably wants to press charges. As a special bonus, they " Dox " the victim by showing a picture of his house!
Nice work, New York Times! Protecting the identity of victims of crime - NOT! The story is laid out in NYT Normal - a huge photo of the criminal involved, along with weepy black-and-whites of his Mom and whatnot.
The way the story is told is dishonest. They tease you by telling the first part of the crime - leading up to the assault on the homeowner - then stop short and intersperse 89 pages of the story of the criminal. The theory is, after reading about what a rough life he has, we are supposed to excuse his criminal actions.
When they finally get around to telling the story of the crime, the actions of the criminal are minimized and the injuries to the homeowner are not even mentioned. He gets clocked on the head with a frying pan.
Did this cause a concussion? We will never know. However the injuries to the criminal are related in great detail - injuries the homeowner inflicted trying to save his own life and that of his friends.
What a rotten guy, right? Worse yet, they mock the homeowner for his paranoia and anxiety he suffers as a result of the break-in. His PTSD is dismissed out of hand, of course.
That of the criminal is what really matters. Other sites online which discuss this story omit the mention of the criminal clocking the homeowner with the frying pancharacterizing the incident as "mistakenly walking into the wrong house" - also failing to mention kicking a dead-bolted door to pieces.
Oh, right, it's a Change. All news is fake newsto some extent, in that they try to sell us on a way of thinking. The far-right just isn't as good as it as the Grey Lady. This sort of dishonest article is part of a trend of the media to get involved in small-town crimes and bring them to a national audience, while at the same time, making the criminals out to be the victims.
The story started out as a crime drama "whodunit? Capote seemed to express a deep sympathy for the killers, and less for the victims. There are rumors he was sexually attracted to one of the killers and may have in fact had an in-jail affair with him.
Crime stories do suffer from an intractable problem - the story quickly becomes all about the criminal and less about the victim.The term “Victim Mentality” has such a nasty “feel” to it. It sounds like something awful, something that we don’t want to examine too closely, and we certainly don’t want to actually have it.
A person who adopts a victim mentality is said to not only cause self-harm, but also cause a lot of stress and negativity in the people around him. The characteristics of this mentality are explained in greater here.
14 Signs of a Victim Mentality You Need to Know Pronto A person who adopts a victim mentality is said to not only cause self-harm, but also cause a lot of stress and negativity in the people around him.
Continue reading "Understanding Victim Mentality ~ a Key to Freedom" 4K What is Victim Mentality? I was going to look it up and post a lovely clinical definition, but I thought it might be more effective to just write about what I have learned about it.
If you’re reading this article because you suspect that you might be clinging to a victim mentality, here are some tips that can help you step out of this toxic role: 1.
Start replacing “you” with “I”. Causing indiscriminate, unintentional pain is the mark of a bully or a dolt, while accepting pain as simply one's lot in life is a victim mentality.
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Let's hope their success is down to a protest vote against politics in general and not to a new Alf Garnett mentality.